Saturday, March 31, 2007

Not just what to buy, where to buy




We have bought all kinds of things these last two weeks, most of them intended as gifts.

We don't yet know who gets what.

But there are all kinds of small items that we still need to get--like Chairman Ho Chi Minh star hats, etc., and the pointed cone hats.

They sell them at hundreds of stalls and stores. How to choose?

Near one of the restaurants we like, we found one called Minh Tam, just like Maisie. That seems as good a way of picking a store as any.

Do you see anything you like? We can get you a good price....

These are just the bags. We'll get photos of some other things--hats, chop sticks, dolls, t-shirts....

Friday, March 30, 2007

Bia Hoi: This one is for Kelly and Jeff


They will know what Bia Hoi means....

Here is an article on beer drinking in Hanoi.

We've tried the Tiger, the Bia Hanoi, and the Anchor.

We prefer best the Red Beer. We visited the brew pub, and it turns out the Moca Cafe, where we ate dinner last night with the group, is owned by the Red Beer company--or vice versa.

Thursday, March 29, 2007

The end game, or trapped in Hanoi


What to write about?

We had a few minutes last night after the babies were asleep, around 8:30 or so, and Peggy started to work on the blog. She had nothing to say or write about. Part of the reason is that life now is just about babies. People do talk about that. But people are usually more interested in the minute goings on of their own kids than in those of other people's children. Do you really need to know that Luc Au Su goes two days between bowel movements?

I kind of feel the same way, with nothing to say.

We have been doing this to some degree to try and answer some of the questions we had about this Hanoi adoption trip for people who might follow us here. We still have a little bit of blogging to do on that score, explaining this end game, which we kind of think about now as "Trapped in Hanoi." That will also let those of you waiting for us back at home when we might be returning.

We also need to write something about the giving and receiving day. As we've discussed it, there are aspects of it that need to be private, out of respect for the birth families of Luc Au Su and Maisie Minh Tam. But there are also things we can tell people which might help them be prepared. Still, we're not ready right now to do that.

So one idea when time was short was to write a blog with a list of topics that we could and should tell you about. That is a process idea, which can then help us to prioritize which topics we will get to.

But I had a moment to write now--and an inclination. It is 7:00 AM here; Maisie Minh Tam is still asleep and Peggy is giving Luc Au Su a bath.

Here is where we are now: When we returned from Lang Son after the G&R, we went to the "police station," as I think it is called, to apply for Vietnamese passports for the babies. It was pretty quick--just Marci for her kids, me, and Nancy from World Child. Take a number, fill out a form, stand in line. Nancy had passoport pictures for the babies. We submitted the papers at one window and got a reciept. Took that to another window and paid 200,000 VN dong for each baby. Got another reciept which says the passports will be done in one week--next Monday at 3:00 PM.

Just so you know, the babies return home to the US on Vietnamese passports.

Then Nancy said she would email the US embassy to set up our USCIS interview. That is an interview with a consulate official who will ask us questions about our adoption process, including, as we understand, our fees and costs. They will also review all our paperwork, US and Vietnamese. We have already recieved pre-approval from the US immigration services to adopt two orphan babies, and that approval is on file here in Hanoi and in Ho Chi Minh City. That form is the famous I171H that adopting families wait for like gold. We had a bit of excitement when we had to update ours from one to two babies, and Susan from World Child and the USCIS officers in Chicago were very helpful to us. But here in Hanoi we have to submit a new I600 form, I guess it is, for the final adoption. We also have to pay some fairly large fees.

On Tuesday, as I remember, Martin gave us the news that our first USCIS interview would be on Monday. So Vietnamese passport on Monday and US interview on Monday. We have nothing else we can do to get out of here until then.

But with the date we will receive the passports set, we can also set up a medical appointment which is required by the US government. You need the passports for the medical appointment. Martin called for that appointment at the SOS Clinic, and the date is Wednesday.

The final step in the process is an exit visa interview--the second US interview. That is a quick one; they just approve your paperwork. But you can't do that until you have everything else complete and your paperwork is reviewed after the first interview. They have your visa ready the next day.

Our deadline for all of this is a late Thursday night/early Friday April 6 1:00 AM flight to Seoul. We are very worried that it won't get done.

We have bumped into a lot of Americans with babies in Hanoi--a bunch of them in this hotel. There is talk about a backlog or at least a traffic jam at the US embassy. What seems to have happened: There was a big rush to get people to Vietnam and then out of Vietnam before Tet. We missed that window. But we are here now on the next window, the first adoptions after Tet.

We are not here in that window alone.

We don't really know at this point if our Friday April 6 return to ORD at 10:40 AM is even possible at this point.

Until then, we are here, trapped in Hanoi...

Maisie Minh Tam is awake. Bye again....

Yes, we have our hands full



We managed to get some photos out of the camera and online through Shutterfly for our families.

I've managed a few emails, some typed with one hand while I held a baby with another.

But we haven't been near the blog, we know, since Monday! And don't expect much now, as I steal a moment.

Peggy has the babies in the room next door playing on the bed. This is now a family ritual. There really isn't anywhere else to play.

We have established something of a routine. Morning feeding, diapers, bath, and shower. Then breakfast. Some kind of outing, then a return to the room for regrouping. More diapering and feeding. Then playtime on the bed. Another outing...

Last night Peggy and I actually ate a dinner meal together at Vine e Pane, an Italian restaurant, while a waitress and a server carried the babies around.

Bed is at about 8:00. We crash ourselves soon after. Nights aren't too bad, with one big late night feeding bash--last night at about 2:00 AM.

That's all for now. Here are some photos....




Monday, March 26, 2007

A moment to give you some photos

It's mid-morning, and between having one baby or the other down we've managed a shower and a few minutes to work on yesterday's photos. Earlier we ate breakfast in the hotel--with coffee--while Luc Au Su and Maisie Minh Tam hung out in teir Bjorns. We had Misie facing out, and she just watched; Luc slept, while Peggy ate carefully over his head. Then we took a slow walk around the block, and fed Luc again. We're about to take them out for walk.

We still have a lot to tell you about yesterday. But you are all asking for photos. Just so you know what kind of day it was, when we looked in the camera there wasn't much there. Here's one photo of our signing. Marci brought her Nikon D70--oh yes, you remember the lens shopping trip--and we think/hope that she documented the event for us. We assume Marci and her family are adjusting as dramatically as we are, so we don't know when we will get those from her. We never even got the video camera out. And I am not sure that Peggy or I took a single photo all day.

But here is what we have, photos of Maisie Minh Tam and Luc Au Su in the van, taken by Marci, while Katie, Robbie, and Betty held her two babies, Jamie and Mylie.

A new day

Okay, we have a lot to catch up on, obviously.

We're just waking up on Tuesday AM here. Luc Au Su, as we now call him, started stirring at 5:45. His diaper was wet, but he didn't seem to want a bottle. He just wants to play, and I hear him gurgling away with Peggy in the other room on the big bed.

Meanwhile, Maisie Minh Tam is still sleeping, despite our stirring about.

This makes sense to us. Luc basically conked out yesterday whenever he had a chance--especially while we walked around Hanoi on our regular rounds, now with the babies in Bjorns.

We had a challenging but wonderful day yesterday. Last night wasn't too bad. But generally I would say we don't yet have to listen to the "I told you so" crowd, but those of you who have been though baby life and have been waiting to see our adaptations, they have definitely begun.

But we are doing fine, which is most important. The babies are healthy and definitely happy, even with us. The both have some colds and congestion. Maisie Minh Tam had some coughs during the night--but it seems to be, as Forrest Gump would say, "cough due to cold." They are both a little stuffy. Peggy worried in the night and wondered about seeing the clinic today, but now it is morning. They are both sleeping, eating, and playing--probably not time yet for the doctor.

We have much to tell about yesterday. I'm not sure when we will have time. That should tell you something!

Thank you all for your support and comments. This is an entirely new part of the adventure.

Trying to eat breakfast with one hand should be interesting.

Sunday, March 25, 2007

Going out the door!

So we're up at 5:15. I've actually been up since 4:00.

We've got our duffle bag full of gifts and our two baby backpacks with clothes, bottles, and diaper stuff. We put scoops of formula in the bottles last night, and for the trip today we will just add bottled water and shake it up.

We also have a bag with some soccer balls we bought yesterday.

Peggy bought a wrap around silk skirt and top for the G&R today, and I'm going with khaki pants and a white shirt.

Four more hours...

The waiting is finally over....

We know we haven't posted for a couple days. But I guess we are just waiting.

We filled yesterday with some wandering around Hanoi, at least our Old and nearby French quarters. We bought some clothes on "Baby Street" to bring to the orphanage in Lang Son, trying to buy things like the clothes the caregivers there seem to prefer for the babies--two pieces, tops and bottoms, and sweaters, especially zip up or snap up sweaters. They use tops and bottoms, because, as we learned, they don't use diapers. They must just change and wash the bottoms. We filled a big plastic grocery bag for $20 US.

As Nancy made clear on our visit there, they need clothes and formula for the babies. It makes sense. We recognize the same clothes in all the pictures we received, and they were wearing the same clothes when we visited them on Friday. They must need more clothes!

Then we made another trek to the mall, this time bringing along Marci and her family. They filled a grocery cart with various items--including a lot of snacks for the family. We didn't buy much--but we did get some shaving cream and disposable razors. If we haven't made it clear at this point, you can get anything you need in Hanoi--except, as far as we can tell, American baby bottles and liners.

On our third outing of the day, we ate dinner out at Al Fresco's, part of the chain of restaurants owned by the same owner. We've already eaten at Pepperoni's, which is a block from the hotel and features a pizza buffet bar for $4 US. Al Fresco's costs a bit more. We noticed the Vietnamese customers were all buying the "jumbo ribs" platter. I went with the tacos, just to say I ate tacos in Vietnam. Peggy had a salad and quesidilla. The food is fine, and it is fun to be eating Tex-Mex in Hanoi.

Other errands during the day included getting prints made of the babies with their caregivers, which we will give them tomorrow in Lang Son.

The day went quickly.

Today started off a bit more slowly. We slept later than I have been sleeping, and got to breakfast at 8:30 or so downstairs in the hotel. Peggy and I started making plans to take a trek across the city to the big West Lake, which we figured to be as long as 10 kilometres or six miles. Then we got a call from Marci with an invitation from World Child to take a trip to the "Ceramic Village." The famous Jenny of WC, whom we know only from phone conversations, would join us. We gave it some thought to sticking with our own plans, but we decided to join the group--and in the end it was a good decision.

We loaded up in a van at the hotel, and then we went to the Melia where we picked up the Keller family. We have barely met them.

On the drive to the village it was interesting to compare their experience in Hanoi to ours. They arrived later--maybe even Tuesday--and then they went to Thai Nguyen on Wednesday to get their babies. So while we have had more than a week here to get the lay of the land, they got their babies right away.

The babies from Thai Nguyen, it turns out, all suffered from a fungal infection that gave them visible sores. The Kellers took their baby to the clinic right away on Thursday or Friday. After getting a diagnosis and some medicine, the doctor advised them to keep the babies indoors at the Melia, a controlled environment, for a few days. So today was essentially one of their first outings out of their hotel, other than going to pick up the babies.

For those of you adopting from Thai Nguyen, Jenny talked about the problem in the van ride. The orphanage is going to be cleaned and sanitized. Our conversations about the orphanages gave us a little bit more information. Adopting from Thai Nguyen orphanage is a little bit like adopting in China; these are babies for whom the birth parents aren't known. We learned, as well, that for some of the ethnic groups, superstitions are strong--and that twins are sometimes abandoned for superstitious reasons.

The ceramic village, located a few miles outside of Hanoi, wasn't a big hit with us, at first. We started in a big main building, with several floors of pots, cups, flower vases.... You get the picture. Some of the pieces interested us--like big coffee mugs. And we liked these "kissing cups." On one floor there is a demonstration set up, with unfinished pots, paint and brushes, and a kiln. Robbie, Katie, and Betty painted their own cups. It's free unless you want them to fire your cup.

But once we went outside and started going shop to shop, we warmed up to the village a little bit more. Eventually we found some interesting smaller items that we think will fit into our bags--and make it home intact. The Kellers had some friends who made the same trip in December, and they did some buying. When they got home to the states, the pieces were broken. We hope we can do better than that because we bought small things that we can pack safely.

We have been told the Luc's name, Nghiep, means accomplishments, and we have seen it used in different ways--including a giant flower display apparently celebrating and literally spelling out Ho Chi Minh's accomplishments. But at the ceramic village we found a sign with Maisie's name, Minh Tam, for the first time.

Tonight Jenny organized a dinner for all the families at a restaurant that also featured traditional Vietnamese food and music. In the van she copied the name and address of the restaurant on a piece of paper. She told us to give it to the taxi driver. I took a look at it, noted the address, and passed it on to Marci.

At 5:30 Peggy and I met Marci, her daughter Katie, Lisa (carrying her baby in her Bjorn), and her mom Cindy in the lobby and we headed out to the restaurant on foot. "The address is 1 Ly Thai Tho," I told them confidently, "and so that must be near the big statue of Ly Thai Tho down by the lake, on the other side." It would be about a one mile hike.

We followed our usual route to the lake, made our way around to the other side, found the statue, and then found Ly Thai Tho street. We followed the numbers down to number one. But it wasn't a restaurant. It was a dress shop next to a motorcycle garage. Marci had given the sheet with the name of the restaurant to her mother, who took a cab. We were, well, really, really lost.

It was a moment of some distress--and it was my fault. We were late for dinner, lost in a strange part of Hanoi, without any idea where we were supposed to be going.

Eventually we called the hotel's main desk, which called Martin, who told them where we should go. So my phone came in handy. It turns out we were on the wrong side of the lake, after our 30-minute walk. The address was 1 Le Thai Tho, not Ly Thai Tho. And the restaurant was a big restaurant right on the lake--just five minutes walk from our hotel.

We hailed taxis, gave the correct address, and arrived at the restaurant--only 50 minutes late. The rest of the group didn't even know about our adventure.

Dinner was nice, with real Vietnamese food--and we bought a CD from the musicians. We sat with Andrew, a World Child volunteer who helps with translating--and has a whole life story that is pretty remarkable for a 22-year-old guy. He is also really tall and really big; he used to play football and basketball. Among other things, he operates a Nepalese restaurant in Ho Chi Minh City.

We still keep asking about Martin, whom we haven't seen for days. We're told he's doing a translating marathon, trying to prepare the paperwork for the next rounds of World Child families who will make this trip.

On the way home, yes, we walked, and trusting that we knew how to get back to the hotel, we stopped for ice cream. We got back to the hotel safe and sound.

So we have managed to pass the time since we visited with Maisie and Luc on Friday. And now tomorrow at 6:00 AM we board the van to Lang Son again--and this time we return with the babies.

We have been thinking about our plans for their names, and we have come to a decision to incorporate their Vietnamese names. Luc will be Luc Au Su Doyle, with Maisie's name Maisie Minh Tam Doyle.

We can't waiting until the morning!

Friday, March 23, 2007

Happy healthy and quiet...


We're back from our trip to Lang Son. And the babies are amazing--healthy, happy, and quiet. It was hard to leave them behind, but we will return to Lang Son on Monday for the official giving and receiving ceremony. Many of our questions were answered--and we got to know Luc and Maisie at least a little bit.

Some details: Lang Son is a three-hour trip in a comfortable van arranged for by World Child. The fee, split between the two families, was 1,400,00 VN dong. Nancy, whose English is excellent, does an amazing job answering questions. She arrived with the van at 8:30, and we were on the road at 8:45.

The first hour of the trip winds through Hanoi's streets and then over the Red River bridge, where there are more Hanoi streets. Then it is out over a second bridge over the river, which must wind back and forth, and travel is fast on a four-lane divided highway. That highway narrows to two lanes in opposite directions the second hour, but the travel is still fast. It gets a little hairy as the driver uses the opposite lane to pass. He has some kind of warning horn that he presses constantly; you get used to it.

The third hour is amazing. Tall cliffs tower on the west side of the road, with terraced fields and small villages, as the road follows a valley. Lang Son is set in the middle of a lowland, but you can see the jutting mountains nearby. Total distance is 155 kilometers--about 100 miles.

The orphanage is tucked up an alley road after a ten minute drive through the city of Lang Son. It has a fence around it. There is a garage area with a parking lot. There is a main office building. Then there seem to be two buildings, several stories high, that house the babies and older children of the orphanage. In front of these buildings is a garden, which Nancy says the older children work each day, and a patch of grassless field. We didn't notice the first time, but at either end of that patch are small soccer goals!

We were directed into the main office building, which seemed almost deserted. It has a big reception or meeting room, with an oblong table and a statue of Ho Chi Minh. A large sign on the wall celebrates the new year of 2007, left over from Tet, and a government banner proclaims some kind of slogan, no doubt.

We met the orphanage director, first, as Nancy translated. The babies and the staff were eating lunch at noon. They would come to see us when they finished.

We were all upstairs on the second floor at the WC when Peggy looked out the front window and said, "Babies are coming!" Everyone ran downstairs; Marci never made it back to the WC.

The caregivers held two babies, and they were saying, "N-gip, N-gip." We still can't say the name the way they say it. So the two Nghiep boys arrived first--one for Marci and one for us. Nancy later told us that the caretakers hadn't realized we were there for four babies, and the other two followed a few minutes later after she reminded them.

Both Nghiep boys, who also share the same birthday, are cared for by the same woman. Marci and Peggy seemed to know right away which one belonged to whom. Peggy said she recognized Luc, but the real giveaway was that he was wearing the same shirt he wore in his pictures. It has green tanks on it.

Luc moved from adult to adult easily. We noticed right away that he makes the pouty face we've seen in the pictures. The caregiver joked to Nancy that he's trying to talk when he makes that face, but that he doesn't know how.

Minh Tam, our Maisie came last, after Marci's girl arrived. Her caregiver seemed a little bit more protective of her. Maisie wouldn't take her eyes off the caregiver for the first few minutes that I was holding her. But she started looking at other people--including the person holding her--after a while.

We switched the babies back and forth a few times. We took lots of pictures in various combinations--Peggy with two at once, the caregivers with each of their babies, Peggy holding one and me holding one.

Nancy had warned us that the visit might last as little as 15 minutes. But in the end it was an hour. Luc's caregiver was friendliest, but even Maisie's caregiver warmed up.

One highlight was when Luc peed on me. They don't use diapers. The caregivers just laughed at the spot on my pants. Robbie, Marci's 13-year-old, took a picture of it.

Maisie's caregiver took her away first. That was the cue for the others.

Nancy went into the orphanage itself with the cameras and some gifts for babies from other World Child families that had been sent with Marci. When she returned, she did some business with the orphanage.

Then we loaded up the van again at 2:00 or so and returned to Hanoi. We hit Friday rush hour traffic at 5:00 when we hit the city. I took some video out of the window of the van to catch the swerving motor scooters in action.

We originally posted this without the photos, but now, as you can see, the photos are here. You have been such great readers and responders. Thank you for your support. We love to get your comments.

In case you don't know, we actually cannot read the blog here in Hanoi using blogspot. We can see how it looks only in the preview mode for the layout. Blogspot must be blocked. We did see it in Sa Pa, which is interesting. Of course, my cell phone didn't work there, but it does work in Hanoi.

Mairead says the comments link disappeared from this post for a while. But I think I fixed it now.

Thursday, March 22, 2007

Baby Cot and a Visit to Lang Son Soon

With news that we travel to Lang Son tomorrow at 7:30 to visit the babies, we at least prepared by finally finding a baby cot at what we call the Hanoi Mall (also known as the Trang Tien Plaza). We bought it on an afternoon shopping trip with Marci and Lisa, and it was just delivered to our hotel room. For 1,200,000 VN dong, it is a bargain! The delivery man, who probably delivered it by scooter, wouldn't take a tip, but he did accept one of our Chicago Marathon hats.

If you haven't figured it out by now, we are just visiting tomorrow, and our G and R is now scheduled for Monday. We hope that is a firm date, but one never knows in Vietnam. Patience seems to be the name of the game.

Our baby cot purchase at the Mall gave me a chance to get a photo of the motor bikes lined up waiting for what appears to be one of three traffic signals in Hanoi. These traffic signals seem to be only suggestions to drivers, bikers and pedestrians, rather than actual rules about whose turn it is to cross.


On Ed's run, he discovered a place called Bar-B-Que Chicken, so we ate there today with the whole crowd (Lisa, Betty, Marci, Katie and Tien), and then celebrated our fast food indulgence with the masks they handed us on the way out. If you can't tell in the photo of the motor bikes, many riders have face masks, I assume to block the exhaust of the traffic. You can buy them all over. But we got our chicken masks just for eating at the hip and trendy new Western style chicken joint (though they served a side of fish sauce with the chicken and rice).

We did miss our driver's arrival with the baby cot, but here's a glimpse of our street at rush hour. It is a one-way street, but no one seems to pay much attention to that. Mostly, it is more like a warning than a requirement.
We had to laugh at the two guys on a motor bike carrying a large pane of glass. And I particularly liked the family of three with mom in a mini-skirt and high heels sitting side saddle, no hands. For all of my worry about walking around the streets with the babies, the rest of Hanoi seems perfectly happy to ride with infants and toddlers astride motor bikes. And we worry about kids on bicycles without helmets!

Wednesday, March 21, 2007

Take the Last Train To Sa Pa

World Child must know that we are all anxious, so when we arrived on Saturday with nothing to do until Thursday, they planned a trip to Sa Pa for us to pass the time. Martin arranged with the hotel for us to take the night train to Lao Cai and then a mini-bus from Lao Cai to Sa Pa, up a switchback mountain road.

We piled out of our mini-bus in front of the Hanoi train station to a crowd that would rival Grand Central, but it was all out of doors. The noise was deafening, and there must have been 100 Pho sellers squatting by the road side. The honking and screeching taxis and scooters made crossing the road to station a delicate operation. We trekked out to the tracks, walked down the dimly lit walk, peering into the sleeper cars with tiffany lamps, water bottles, flowers on the tables, and two beds adjacent to dark wood walls. But, we just kept walking. The next cars didn't have the wood wall, but they did still have a lamp and this time four beds in the sleeper cars, but we still kept walking.

Finally, we reached our car. Martin looked shocked and the rest of us tried to take it all in stride. After conferring rapidly in Vietnamese with the train conductor, Martin assigned us to our berths. Marci, her mom Betty and her two kids Robby and Katie shared a room with Lisa and her mom Cindy. Ed, Martin and I were in the room next door. The six berths, about the size of coffins, were stacked and stocked with pillows and blankets. Martin agreed to climb to the top, Ed took the middle and I was on the bottom bunk. Just before the train pulled out, our other three roommates came in and settled into the berths across the spacious aisle. Around 2 am two of our roommates left and two new ones got on.

As Ed said to Martin, "If this was the Titanic, we'd been in steerage, with the Irish." I'm not sure Martin got the joke, but he was interested in steerage.

I didn't sleep much on the train, and by the time it was day-light, we were approaching Lao Cai. Staring out the window at the neatly terraced rice paddies, tin-roofed wooden huts, I noticed water buffalo precariously near the train windows. They seemed unperturbed by our passing.

Our mini-bus from Lao Cai swerved and rocked up the mountain to Sa Pa, dropping trekkers and backpackers off along the way. As the last stop, we were hindered by the mountain-top traffic jam, but made it to our hotel, the Green Bamboo, in time for breakfast. We met our guide, Hao, at breakfast and he explained the next two days. We'd visit a Black H'mong village first, then on the next day Giay village.

Hiking down to the H'mong village, we were literally surrounded by H'mong girls, all speaking fabulous English that they learned from tourists, who were trying to sell the traditional H'mong indigo embroidered clothing and bags. Robby and Katie made friends and even exchanged email addresses with the H'mong girls. (Though the girls speak excellent English, and some of them French as well, they don't read and write, so I am not sure how effective the emailing will be).

Hao confirmed to us what my suspicion had been all along. The H'mong people had been a much more nomadic group, hunting and growing corn and rice all around the Sa Pa mountains and valleys. More recently, the Vietnamese government has taught them to farm in a single area, and much like the Native American reservation system, the government seems eager to on the one hand protect some aspects of traditional H'mong culture, while on the other assimilating the H'mong into Vietnamese society.

The children don't attend school regularly. Hao explained that the Vietnamese government has tried to teach the H'mong about family planning, but that does not seem to be working. I felt like an intruder at times, especially when Hao brought us into a H'mong family house, explaining that they would hang green leafs outside if they were praying or didn't want visitors. On the other hand, the H'mong people themselves were hospitable and welcoming.














I do wonder about the issue of cultural integrity, and whether this influx of tourist money is something that will ultimately be problematic. It does seem that the encroachment of the West and a more urban Vietnamese culture is inevitable, and perhaps this mix of government protection along with "improvements" like electricity in the small houses, is the only way to avoid complete cultural annihilation.

The physical beauty of the place is astonishing, and even though we were there on a rainy and foggy day, the green terraced mountains and the 40 foot bamboo stands seemed to exude a kind of calm.

On the way back up, Betty got a ride on a motor scotter, and our other guide Martin came zooming by on one as well. Ed and I and the others took the long walk back up to our hotel, then made plans for day two.

Ed and I also made it back to the Sa Pa market, where up top you can get all of the textiles made in the villages and down below you can get every kind of food imaginable: rows and rows of whole chickens, buckets of crabs crabs, pails of fish, entire slabs of beef. The smell is of wood smoke mixed with fish and damp. As the early morning shoppers, we were surrounded by H'mong women trying to sell their wares.

Lucy, a 16 year old H'mong girl, became our translator for the morning. We bought bags, traditional baby carriers, wall hangings, hats and outfits for the babies, and even a stuffed water buffalo. All have the smoky smell of the homes where they are made. We wonder about the indigo dye, but someone told us that we can wash them in vinegar to set it when we get home. We'll have a big pile of things for Elizabeth, Doyle, Griffin, Kate, and Sean to choose from.


In the Gaiy village, there was clearly a feeling of tourism, since a little store/restaurant had been set up to accommodate the many trekkers.

Out back, we climbed a bamboo bridge over a river that feeds the rice paddies. Ed spent much of the time in this village talking with Ping, a girl of about 11 or 12 who spoke English, French, and German (as well as Vietnamese and her own dialect). Ping and the other girls didn't quite believe that we were here to adopt babies. We told them we'd come back to visit in a few years.






Hao told us that in the last five years, much of Sa Pa has been developed with WTO money. We've read that the trend to commercialize in Sa Pa will undoubtedly continue as there are plans for a fancy hotel complex in the works. You can also see the influence of the French, as Sa Pa was once a place filled with French villas. Hao also told us that when the Chinese invaded in 1979, many of the villas were destroyed, but the feeling remains.

The last event of our Sa Pa trip was Hao's wedding feast. He'd been married just a few days before, and his wife was one of the cooks at our hotel. So, we joined them for a wedding feast in the hotel restaurant. This was real Vietnamese food, with water bottles of home made rice wine on the table, along with sticky rice, bamboo soup, and a whole roasted chicken, head and all. The vegetables contained the rest of the chicken -- stomach, heart, eggs (and Katie was brave and ate one of the eggs, which looked much like a yolk). It was a good final meal before our trip back down to Lao Cai and the night train back to Hanoi.

We do have to tell you about the mini-bus ride back down the mountain.

When the bus pulled up at our hotel, I thought there was no way all nine of us, with our luggage, were getting on that jammed full bus, but we did -- with much negotiating by Martin and the driver. After what felt like a treacherous u-turn atop the mountain, our bus driver stopped again at another hotel and we groaned collectively. In total, 24 passengers plus the driver and lots of luggage were crammed onto a bus intended to hold no more than half that number.

We arrived back in Hanoi tired, but excited that Lisa heard -- just as the train was leaving the station -- that she would be meeting her baby the next day. This time, we knew what to expect on the train ride home, or rather to our temporary home in Hanoi. Martin did try to negotiate with the hotel (without our knowledge) for the Tiffany-lamped first class cars, but we all seemed to like the adventurous feel to the "steerage" cars. We are Irish, after all!